Happiness is purely internal. It is produced not by objects, but by ideas, attitude and the way you respond to the things happening around you.
Your environment doesn’t have control over your happiness. But your reactions to your environment have the control over your happiness.
You are destined to live in happiness but unless you are a monk living in some holy mountain, it is not possible for you to be happy all the time. But that doesn’t mean you should live in unhappiness all the time.
When some misfortune happened in your life, you become unhappy and that is natural. If you lost someone close to you, if you fall into a severe illness or if you lost your job, it’s natural to feel unhappy. But you shouldn’t stay there forever. If you stay there for very long, then sadness will become your natural self and you seldom find happiness in life.
Most of the time you are unhappy not because some misfortune happened in your life. But often you feel miserable for small things that are happening every day.
Do you find your environment too negative? Are the situations make you hopeless?
You must be living more in unhappiness reacting to your environment than being sad about something terrible happening to you.
Be honest, ask yourself and you will know this is true.
Most people are unhappy over small things that they are not supposed to.
I am sure the things that make you unhappy every day are not really something big but they are very small. But they are doing the greatest disaster to your life by building a habit of unhappiness.
A driver honks a horn at you unnecessarily.
Someone interrupt and doesn’t give attention when you are speaking.
Someone doesn’t come through as you were expecting.
The bus you wanted to catch had to be late.
The traffic gets jammed when you needed to catch the plane.
How do you react to all the situations?
I am sure with anger, resentment and self-pity. Right?
You react to all these situations with Unhappiness.
Most of the time you become unhappy with things you don’t have control over. And as a result, you develop the habit of expecting the same again and again in future.
Don’t let such situations make you unhappy.
You can do that by being conscious of how you are reacting to all such circumstances.
Don’t let the environment control your emotions.
Don’t let the bad news about the society or system spoil your day.
Don’t let the over information distract you from your dreams and true purpose of life.
By being reactive to all that is happening around you is your reason for unhappiness.
Stop letting your surrounding make you a victim. But become the optimistic being to build your magical surrounding.
Always live with happiness. Choose to focus on positive outcome all the time. And when you don’t have control what’s happening around you, let it go and knows that you don’t have to react with unhappiness.
Ajay Mishra is a Life-Coach, Inspirational Writer and Motivational Speaker. Popularly known as ‘Awesome AJ’ among his friends, clientele and followers for spreading awesomeness in their life through his path- breaking techniques in subconscious mind programming, the law of attraction and success philosophy.